Sunday, December 27, 2009

Fixing marriage: Percy Sutton

With all due respect, Fellow Democrats against gay marriage should take note:

A great African American leader has died. Mr. Percy Sutton. He was a civil rights leader who represented Malcolm X. He was a pioneering politician in New York City.
He was a successful businessman, and an important voice in black culture.
May he rest in Peace...

While reading about his story, I noticed this:

He entered Columbia Law School on the G.I. Bill on the basis of his solid grades at the colleges he attended. He transferred to Brooklyn Law School so he could work days. He worked at the post office from 4 p.m. until midnight, then as a subway train conductor until 8:30 a.m. He then reported to law school at 9:30. He kept this schedule for three years and became a lawyer.

This punishing pace so annoyed his wife, the former Leatrice O’Farrell, that she divorced him in 1950 — only to remarry him in 1952. In between, he married and divorced Eileen Clark.

Mr. Sutton’s survivors include his wife, Leatrice Sutton; a son from their marriage, Pierre; and a daughter from his second marriage, Cheryl Lynn Sutton

This is what needs to change. It is not o.k. for a man to be divorced. While today, one can still be considered a great man and failed at marriage, going forward we need to hold people accountable.

We need to establish the principle that an indispensible component of sucess as a man is to grow up, get married to the woman of your choice, and stay married to her for the rest of your life. In addition, to raise your children within that nuclear unit as your first priority.

Yet, there's too many stories of people who have failed at marriage but have done so well otherwise.

As a society we need to answer the question is marriage important?

I say YES!

Our society needs the natural balance of a sanctified male-female relationship.
Marriage and all of it's "rules" are a good way to establish order amidst chaos.

So starting with this generation we need to impress upon them at a young age that one of their goals is to get married and stay married.

It's hard work. Just as hard as anything else worth having.

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