Wednesday, September 24, 2014

When everybody lies...

The media and both political parties persist in describing our time as one of economic stagnation or worse. Recently there's been widespread attention given to the "fact" median household income has  been flat or fallen over the past 25 years:

The American middle class hasn't gotten a raise in 15 years


The incredible shrinking middle class


Regardless of any economic stats or emotional appeal to the average American's struggle, the plain fact is:

The middle class is Waaaaaay better off and prospering than it ever has been in American history.  Nonetheless  it seems everybody still wants to deny this, and then blame their political enemy for things being so "bad".

Here's evidence that things are so good:

Average household has over 5 internet connected devices

That means it is now average to:
-have a phone at all times
-check bank acct anytime
-listen to thousands of songs anytime
-watch almost anything anytime
-do business anywhere
-have gps verbally give directions to anywhere
And on and on

-- think of the choices we have in terms of eating that weren't so even 15 years ago and definitely not 25 years ago.  On a basic level think about Mcdonalds and Burger King in those timespans.  From coffee drinks, desserts, healthy menus, and new products.  Think of the proliferation of Subway and more healthy restaurants as alternatives.   But on a deeper level, look what's available to average middle class families in the grocery store.  There's fresh seafood, worldwide fruit and veggies, all the products have multiple times more choices.  There's classic coke, caffeine coke, diet, cherry, cherry sprite, regular sprite, diet sprite, 20 calorie 7 up, vitamin water,  no cal vitamin water, juices ,10 types of Gatorade, iced teas, lemonades, half and half, whole milk, 2% milk, skim milk, almond milk.

There's frozen everything that tastes really good. Microwave oatmeal, popcorn with too many flavors to mention.  The point is no reasonable person would take the grocery store of 15 years ago, definitely not 25 as being equal or a little better than today.

The average Middle class has hundreds of tv channels available to watch. This includes many niche interests like the baseball network, the cooking network, the weather channel, 6 sports channels, 5 news channels, numerous movie channels, music channels, and so on.  25 years ago it was less than 10.  Even 15 years ago, it was less than 100.

Plus most have DVR's and everything is digital.
Everything can be time shifted to fit your schedule.

You get the point.  We can play around with numbers to imply that the middle class is having tough time compared to 15 or 25 years ago.

Basically the influx of computers and technology into our daily lives, as well as much more edifice use of resources throughout the economy

Tuesday, September 16, 2014

research shows women the cause of much Domestic Violence

Women more abusive than men in relationships (including 40% of  severe abuse) -CDC study

Females initiate at least as much DV as males - Harvard study

Female initiation of DV is most danger to women - 2009 IPV Conference

Women more likely to stalk and abuse than men  - U Florida study

Women more likely to commit Domestic violence, studies show - The New American

I can go on and on. You can too:
Google female initiated DV.

We have so many people honestly trying to solve the problem of MALE Domestic Violence while ignoring that women are a big part of the problem.  Most male DV aren't "Jack the Bear".   Meaning most aren't initiating violence by themselves and attacking completely innocent and unsuspecting partners.  DV is a relationship problem.  Usually by both people in many ways as the facts show.  The solution is to get both men and women to stop being violent.  Only focusing on male violence as these studies show will not work and ultimately will result in more women getting hurt.

Saturday, September 13, 2014

Palins in a brawl - women most violent

I don't have much use for discussing Sarah Palin and her family.  But in light of the Ray Rice incident, and the general talk about Domestic Violence where the media and many men in particular seem determined to think the the problem is with MEN.  "Don't ever put your hands on a woman", "Real men walk away", etc. All the while ignoring that most DV is mutual and/or started by females.  Until women stop initiating, provoking, and continuing DV, the problem will keep getting worse.

We really should be shouting also that "real women walk away when they can", "real women don't slap men", "real women don't insult men".

Most reasonable men agree it is wrong for men to hit women. I certainly do.  Men should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law.  Ray Rice should have been in jail and a protective order issued preventing him and his wife from contact.

But we need to admit that most DV is relationship violence that is ongoing and mutual.  Both sides need to stop the emotional, psychological and physical abuse.

Which leads me to the story  about Sarah Palin's family in a brawl.

The details I want to highlight:

After that ended, Conner, Steve, and Melissa Cleary huddled together close to Thompson, who spotted Bristol and Willow from a distance, walking straight towards them with purpose.
“They were on a b-line, coming straight at Melissa,” Thompson said.
The owner of the house, Klingenmeyer, was trying to head them off at the pass. He approached them and told them to leave. Bristol, according to Thompson and other witnesses, planted her feet, “stood straight up, brought her arm back and cold-cocked him right in the face,” Thompson said.
And then she did it again, about six more times, before he pushed her away, and she fell, and Todd appeared.
“I was thoroughly amazed at the restraint Korey showed. He’s a total gentlemen,” Thompson said.

Here's a female attacking a man.
The people at the party obviously observe the "never hit a female" line.
Furthermore, they compliment the man for not hitting her back, even though he was attacked repeatedly.

The worse part, is that there's not negative judgement in the story or from the people there on the female aggression.

THAT is the main problem with DV today.  Women get to have it both ways in society.  They are totally equal for anything good, and lumped in with the children (and not responsible) when it's convenient.

We should stop all violence, and treat men and women equal at all times.  That includes responsiblity.

Friday, September 12, 2014

Women cause much of the Domestic Violence

If we want to stop DV, and we do, mostly meaning men physically abusing women, then the biggest and most important thing we can do is to get


That might sound petty (it is)
That might sound silly (it is not)

Google: women initiate DV

Men have been told for years to never hit a woman, no matter what.  Many men subscribe to this. So much so, that many women have taken this as a license that they can be violent with no repercussions.

But the reality is when a women hits a man, eventually she's getting hit back harder. 

So men shouldn't hit women.
Women shouldn't hit men.
No matter what for everybody.
Anyone who breaks that  has broken law and should be prosecuted.

Tuesday, September 9, 2014

What we expected to see in Ray Rice Video

Soooo many tv commentators asking the rhetorical question, "what did we expect to see" in the Ray Rice video?  Her slipping and falling and getting knocked out?

And somehow they are ignoring the obvious, and true answer:

All evidence pointed to a Solange - Jay Z type interaction in the elevator, where Ray Rice hit his wife to stop her asault on him.

Here's why that makes sense:

-he was not charged a felony or given jail time in a plea bargain
-the NFL told us that they reviewed all the evidence and suspended him only 2 games
-the woman apologized "for her role"
-she married him, and her family supported him
-everyone involved refuse to describe the scene inside

and  one of the biggest reasons:

-it's politically incorrect to hold women accountable for their violent behavior towards men

We all thought that Janae was mad at Ray Rice for some reason, attacked him in the elevator, he, in a flash of anger hit her to stop, she fell back and hit her head on an elevator bannister, and was knocked out.

The media is ruling this scenario out because they think:

There's never a reason to hit a woman

So they now act befuddled why the video changes everything!
Because we saw that Ray Rice wasn't defending himself.
Ray Rice was the aggressor.  He was a bully.  He was an abuser.

If this was a Solange situation, the media is claiming he'd STILL be the aggressor, bully, and abuser.  And that is the rub.  That is ridiculous.  That is a dangerous idea for women and society.

Women are 100% responsible for their behavior.  If they attack, they need to be ready to be attacked.
They shouldn't attack.
They of course shouldn't be attacked.

This is a rare time where most reasonable people agree on things:
Ray Rice deserves to be out of the NFL and in jail.

But the media still is promoting PC bs.
If she had attacked him, Ray Rice would have only deserved the 2 game suspension, if that.
The games would be for his behavior after the incident.

If women are equal, then they must accept responsibility for their actions.
Ray Rice is equal, and he has no choice but to deal with the consequences.