Saturday, September 13, 2014

Palins in a brawl - women most violent

I don't have much use for discussing Sarah Palin and her family.  But in light of the Ray Rice incident, and the general talk about Domestic Violence where the media and many men in particular seem determined to think the the problem is with MEN.  "Don't ever put your hands on a woman", "Real men walk away", etc. All the while ignoring that most DV is mutual and/or started by females.  Until women stop initiating, provoking, and continuing DV, the problem will keep getting worse.

We really should be shouting also that "real women walk away when they can", "real women don't slap men", "real women don't insult men".

Most reasonable men agree it is wrong for men to hit women. I certainly do.  Men should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law.  Ray Rice should have been in jail and a protective order issued preventing him and his wife from contact.

But we need to admit that most DV is relationship violence that is ongoing and mutual.  Both sides need to stop the emotional, psychological and physical abuse.

Which leads me to the story  about Sarah Palin's family in a brawl.

The details I want to highlight:

After that ended, Conner, Steve, and Melissa Cleary huddled together close to Thompson, who spotted Bristol and Willow from a distance, walking straight towards them with purpose.
“They were on a b-line, coming straight at Melissa,” Thompson said.
The owner of the house, Klingenmeyer, was trying to head them off at the pass. He approached them and told them to leave. Bristol, according to Thompson and other witnesses, planted her feet, “stood straight up, brought her arm back and cold-cocked him right in the face,” Thompson said.
And then she did it again, about six more times, before he pushed her away, and she fell, and Todd appeared.
“I was thoroughly amazed at the restraint Korey showed. He’s a total gentlemen,” Thompson said.

Here's a female attacking a man.
The people at the party obviously observe the "never hit a female" line.
Furthermore, they compliment the man for not hitting her back, even though he was attacked repeatedly.

The worse part, is that there's not negative judgement in the story or from the people there on the female aggression.

THAT is the main problem with DV today.  Women get to have it both ways in society.  They are totally equal for anything good, and lumped in with the children (and not responsible) when it's convenient.

We should stop all violence, and treat men and women equal at all times.  That includes responsiblity.

Friday, September 12, 2014

Women cause much of the Domestic Violence

If we want to stop DV, and we do, mostly meaning men physically abusing women, then the biggest and most important thing we can do is to get


That might sound petty (it is)
That might sound silly (it is not)

Google: women initiate DV

Men have been told for years to never hit a woman, no matter what.  Many men subscribe to this. So much so, that many women have taken this as a license that they can be violent with no repercussions.

But the reality is when a women hits a man, eventually she's getting hit back harder. 

So men shouldn't hit women.
Women shouldn't hit men.
No matter what for everybody.
Anyone who breaks that  has broken law and should be prosecuted.

Tuesday, September 9, 2014

What we expected to see in Ray Rice Video

Soooo many tv commentators asking the rhetorical question, "what did we expect to see" in the Ray Rice video?  Her slipping and falling and getting knocked out?

And somehow they are ignoring the obvious, and true answer:

All evidence pointed to a Solange - Jay Z type interaction in the elevator, where Ray Rice hit his wife to stop her asault on him.

Here's why that makes sense:

-he was not charged a felony or given jail time in a plea bargain
-the NFL told us that they reviewed all the evidence and suspended him only 2 games
-the woman apologized "for her role"
-she married him, and her family supported him
-everyone involved refuse to describe the scene inside

and  one of the biggest reasons:

-it's politically incorrect to hold women accountable for their violent behavior towards men

We all thought that Janae was mad at Ray Rice for some reason, attacked him in the elevator, he, in a flash of anger hit her to stop, she fell back and hit her head on an elevator bannister, and was knocked out.

The media is ruling this scenario out because they think:

There's never a reason to hit a woman

So they now act befuddled why the video changes everything!
Because we saw that Ray Rice wasn't defending himself.
Ray Rice was the aggressor.  He was a bully.  He was an abuser.

If this was a Solange situation, the media is claiming he'd STILL be the aggressor, bully, and abuser.  And that is the rub.  That is ridiculous.  That is a dangerous idea for women and society.

Women are 100% responsible for their behavior.  If they attack, they need to be ready to be attacked.
They shouldn't attack.
They of course shouldn't be attacked.

This is a rare time where most reasonable people agree on things:
Ray Rice deserves to be out of the NFL and in jail.

But the media still is promoting PC bs.
If she had attacked him, Ray Rice would have only deserved the 2 game suspension, if that.
The games would be for his behavior after the incident.

If women are equal, then they must accept responsibility for their actions.
Ray Rice is equal, and he has no choice but to deal with the consequences.

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

Top 5 *reasonable) things no espn employee will say

5.  Becky Hammon should work in WNBA because there shouldn't be female coaches in NBA
            - NBA is like a fraternity, just like WNBA should be a like a sorority

4.   Michael Sam is attracted to men, so he shouldn't be in the private part of the locker room, just
      like Becky Hammon won't be.
3.   Men and women are 100% equal.  If any man or any woman hits any other man or any other  woman they can and should expect to be hit back hard.  So everyone stop hitting.

2.    Former white athletes looking to get into the media or coaching are held to a higher standard than black athletes in terms of communication skills, and it's wrong.  There should be one standard.
1.    A person making an honest statement expressing a respected viewpoint should not be suspended or fired even if some powerful group disagrees.

Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Scientific proof Stephen A Smith was right

Steven A Smith was suspended this week for basically saying:

1. men should never hit women (I disagree, we're all equal, You hit me, expect to get hit back)
2. women should not provoke situations where men might (wrongly in his view) hit women because the result is that they'll be hurt.   The man would be wrong, but they'd be injured.

He was lambasted for suggesting that women "provoke" men, rather than men being responsible. He in fact said numerous times that the man would be wrong.  But he wanted to hold women accountable too.  This was aided by irresponsible tweets by Michelle Beadle, who played the gender card by alluding to her former abuse, and demagoging  the issue talking about "maybe I shouldn't wear a miniskirt" and provoke an attack. Totally not on point with the discussion, but emotionally powerful.

Well science has spoken numerous times.  Here one:

female initiated violence (no matter how small) leads to more female injury from domestic violence

This research shows that out of:

violence by him only
violence by her only
violence by both him initiating
violence by both her initiating

the most likely to result in future injury to women is when she initiates and he responds.

We all can agree, DV is wrong, no matter who attacks.  As a society, we need to address women more responsibly and hold them accountable for their behavior.  Both people should be 100% accountable for their words and deeds.  In the exact same way.  Not doing so, actually leads to more violence against women.