We need men to lead their households in a firm yet fair way. Within this context there are many different possibilities. Our normal nuclear family of Man, woman, and children needs to be nurtured and bolstered. There aren't enough positive role models for a happy family in the mainstream media. Politicians seem to promote them in a cynical way, while movies and tv seem bent on destroying our culture.
A man's first job is to be a good husband, then a father, and then a provider. This doesn't necessarily have to relate to money as it does to leadership. Being able to say no and stay with it. Being able to be steadfast while rejecting violence. Being able to be flexible while rejecting weakness.
Life is a balancing act.
Deal with it.