Many write and read books about how to be a good parent, yet we should all be humble enough to accept that untraditional and unorthodox ways can work. Maybe not for your child or even most, but for a particular child in a certain family.
Physical punishment or not.
strict discipline or not.
intense educational environment or not.
permissiveness or not.
I personally think it is best to have a strong two parent household with clear differences between the mom and dad. While they both should share a dedication to their children and a commitment to excellence, women should be well women, and men should be the leaders.
Every relationship needs to be negotiated as to what is best for them.
As a society we need standards. We need aspirations towards excellence.
If it hasn't worked for you in the past, that doesn't necessitate you to disparage others in the future.
We have a duty to try offer our children the best shot possible at reaching their God-given potential.