Monday, December 15, 2008

Left Wing Parents abuse their children as much as the "typical" abusers

By Left Wing, I mean mostly moms but also some effiminate men who try to protect their children from all types of dangers. In addition,they selfishly and unnecessarily insert themselves into their children's lives so as to hinder the child's natural growth. That is the really abusive part.

If a person physically beats a child so much so that they impact their body's ability to physically grow, everyone agrees that this is abuse and should be stopped immediately, the child removed, and the parent punished.

If a person abandons a child for days and weeks on end, say a 7 year old is left home for 3 weeks alone, everyone agrees that this is abuse and neglect that should be addressed likewise.

But what about the parents who treat their 10-13 year old boys, the same way we would treat our 5 -7 year old girls?

What if they fail to teach them basic survival skills? About how to deal with menacing people? How to tell if someone's trying to trick them? Abuse them sexually? etc.

The fact is we have a whole generation of young people in the suburbs whose parents have retarded their intellectual growth. They plan out these kid's whole lives and try to control as much of the environment as possible.

It generally starts with "play dates" when they're young, and the moms' especially never let go of this need to protect and control.

I surmise it comes from a failure to psychologically distinguish the child as an individual as well as the fear of separation we all deal with concerning our own mortality.

Nonetheless, the end result is that we have 7th and 8th grade boys whose thinking skills are on a 2nd and 3rd grade level for one reason. They have been taught not to think.

Sure they might have good grades, involved in many (parent approved) activities, but they haven't been able to investigate and figure out the world.

The really abusive part is in the knowledge that at some point sooner or later the children will be here on earth left to fend for themselves; either psychologically or in reality.

For girls, it is acceptable to be this way, find a husband and become a "junior partner" in marriage.

But for the boys, they will be judged on their merits.

The options aren't plentiful and they don't look good.

Here's what should be done:

Fathers should demand that boys be treated as such. Explain that there are risks in allowing independence but that life is risky, and unless a child learns to navigate that they will never reach their God given potential.

In addition, talk to the child and try to inspire positive and constructive ideas on many things.
Try to link independent thinking with activities they truly enjoy. Hopefully their individuality will kick in.

As I'm sure you can tell, as this is happening in some parts of our country, there are inner cities and some rural areas, where children almost raise themselves without any guidance.

There they develop intelligence but it is often not directed and purposeful towards success or a positve circumstance.

The extremes are almost always wrong, and it's true here. Too much freedom at a young is bad, too little is dangerous also.

We need to balance the many needs and impulses both we and our children have. We need to plan out our lives and try to live a moral existence attempting to do the right thing.

In this case:

We need to neutralize our own negative traits and try not to pass them on to our children.

We all have to deal with the inevitable sadness of death, while trying to achieve positive ends and live good lives. I think many parents who themselves were raised rather well, have taken to abusing their kids, and as of now it is totally legal.

Craig Farmer
making the word "liberal" safe again!

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