Most of us plan for something. What about success for our families? Can you articulate a plausible path of accomplishment for yourself and/or your children?
I mean actually go step by step and reach a conclusion.
Not that you have to stick with this exact plan for good, but that every day you have an idea of what you are doing. Something to compare the results with and make adjustments.
As has been said, if you fail to plan, you are planning to fail.