Friday, December 19, 2008

pro choice and for the rights of men

I agree with this article and think we need to make our laws
and culture make sense to include

The Rights of Men

by Jerry A. Boggs

THE Rev. Jesse Jackson, as the premier civil rights leader (apologies to Al Sharpton, who may be sliding in the respect department), ordinarily misses no opportunity to fulminate about the tiniest inequality encumbering minorities and women.
Yet he has long ignored a gargantuan inequality that encumbers men, especially black men due to their fewer financial resources. He continues to ignore this inequality even though he himself is encumbered by it.
Some years ago Jackson had an out-of-wedlock child with Karin Stanford, a one-time aide in Jackson's Rainbow PUSH Coalition Washington office. Although he seems to have recovered politically from the scandal, he is still saddled with a child support obligation of $4,000-a-month. This amount may make even the well-off reverend wince. If so, he’ll wince monthly for at least the next 16 years – all because Stanford declined to exercise her right of abortion.
What is the gigantic gender inequality Jackson ignores? A woman may either take a pregnancy to term or abort it if she doesn't want or can't afford to support a child. In contrast, the man has no right to withhold money if he doesn't want to pay support for a child he didn't want or even if he can't afford the support.
If men had the right to withhold support, the right would in no way hinder the right of a woman to control her own body; she is free to do as she chooses, just as before. It would merely give the man a right that is fair and equal to the woman's right to deliver a child against his wish.
Yet courts have routinely denied this right to men. As justification they typically cite “the best interests of the child” and “to keep women off welfare.” Never mind that using “the best interests of the child” to deny women an abortion right has been outlawed since Roe v. Wade nearly 30 years ago. And try using “to keep men off welfare” to deny women equal work rights!
So the courts, while enforcing equal workplace rights to prevent female economic devastation, ignore equal "childplace" rights and often create male economic devastation by requiring men -- including poor men who possess none of the “male power” that perhaps further justifies courts’ opposition to men withholding support for a child they did not want -- to pay for a child they neither wanted nor could afford.
This court-sanctioned economic devastation of males isn’t reserved just for adults. “If an underage boy is officially recognized as a victim of statutory rape and the act results in a birth,” says gender expert Cathy Young, author of
Ceasefire! Why Women and Men Must Join Forces to Achieve True Equality, “he is liable for child support.” Now consider: If just one underage girl were impregnated by an adult male, forced to have the baby and hand it over to the man, and then was ordered to pay child support for 18 years, femininists would crash through the court house in tanks and blow the judge to smithereens! (See story about a 13-year-old girl who was denied an abortion.)
The male's automatic liability for child support is underscored by Warren Farrell in
Father and Child Reunion: “Forcing a man to do ‘100 percent pay, but no say’ – under penalty of being put in jail – is the modern-day equivalent of slavery.” Slavery of females is precisely what feminists would call it if men had all the say.
So when Karin Stanford let Jesse Jackson know he had no rights regarding the pregnancy that she was as much responsible for as he (or morally more responsible if she deceived him), he could have presented this inequality to the world. He could have helped the only minority group still ignored – men, especially black men, who get the double dose of anti-male sexism and the regular racism. (For more on the plight of black men, search for “black men” and "black males" in my search window.)
He could have said, “Long after we have realized the horror in depriving females an abortion right, we remain horrified at the idea of granting a comparably equal right to males. This anti-male bias is as entrenched in both liberals and conservatives as was the anti-female bias decades ago. If women deserve equality in the productive world, men deserve equality in the reproductive world. They don’t deserve the callous ‘You play, you pay’ any more than women do.”
He could have quoted from Father and Child Reunion: “‘In the old days, a woman’s biology was a woman’s destiny. Not good. ...[T]oday, a woman’s biology is a man's destiny.’” To which he could have added: “Depriving males of an equal ‘abortion’ right violates the Fourteenth Amendment’s equal-protection provision. Without this equal protection, the male, especially if impoverished, is forced to accept a life-altering financial burden, the kind that is imposed on the female only if she chooses it.”
Master of the resonating rhyme, Jackson could have raised society’s consciousness with such slogans as: “Taxation without representation,” “Females choose, males lose,” “All pay and no say,” and “Give men a voice in the choice.”
Regrettably, perhaps in part because of the feminist-driven “male power/female powerlessness” mindset, demanding a withhold-support right for men might have killed Jackson’s career as premier civil rights leader, rather than temporarily wound it as did his out-of-wedlock child with Karin Stanford. But if Jackson won’t advocate gender equality for half of the population, especially half of the black population, can we really call him a leader?
(A tragic irony: Although no affirmative action helps even poor black men in the reproductive realm, affirmative action helps even wealthy white women in the productive realm.

I think women should retain the right to choose an abortion because the whole process takes place 100% inside her body and we should respect her human rights. By the way we should also keep searching for incentives and policies that will make it more possible to encourage every woman to choose life.

On the other side we should make it so that the woman has to prove that the man should be held liable for the next 18 years.

I say this because, the idea that we should use the "best interest" of the child doesn't make sense, since we start out (early on in pregnancy) giving the woman the ability to kill the same child, and then there aren't any more issues.

I would hope that all men would want to contribute to a child's welfare where necessary. But we all know many women who use the law as a weapon to stay in contact with the father and/or to use him as a means of income when she could otherwise provide.

I want the situation to make sense and be the right thing. There are too many scenarios to list them all, but I will try a few:

-If the man and woman agree to make a baby, then they both should be held responsible.

-If the woman sets out to get pregnant and the man doesn't want that and takes precautions but it happens anyway he shouldn't be held responsible for child support.

-If the pregnancy was an "accident" and neither of them wanted the child, then the woman should retain her right to choose, but the man should have the same right to refuse any responsibility. While this is not morally desirable, and would never choose this for me, it is the right thing to do considering the next option.

-If the pregnancy was an "accident" and the man wants the child, but the woman wants to have an abortion. The woman should retain 100% rights over her body to have an abortion. Yet, the man should be able to offer her a deal to have the baby, and then she relinquish all rights.

Think about the times when men want their children and the woman aborts because the couple is separated, or she thinks for one reason or another it is a bad idea.

Men need to demand full equality in society. It is the best thing for men and women.

Craig Farmer
making the word "liberal" safe again!

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